There appears to be a proverbial light at the end of the tunnel.
Cara went down last night at 7 pm and ended up not going back to sleep until 8:28 pm. She slept all the way until 2:30 this morning at which point I went in there and boobed her and put her back to bed. She slept until right before 8 am.
Maybe things will change tonight, but from what I’ve observed the past two nights, I would say that her bed time is 8:30. I was feeling kind of guilty about being the “bedtime Nazi” but I wouldn’t allow her to just go to bed whenever when she’s two or ten so why should I allow it now? She’s an advanced kid and she understands a lot…she needs a schedule and that’s what I’m gonna give her.
Today’s goals are to increase her naps to longer than thirty minutes and to get her into bed around 8 pm. A need for longer naps became really apparent last night; she was beat by 6 pm. Also, if she takes longer naps then it should be easier to keep her up until around 8 so that we won’t have as long of a fight.
So, she’s in bed right now. Our first “wait” for today is ten minutes and if she’s still crying by 9:56 am then I’ll go in and pat her stomach and tell her to shut the hell up and go to sleep (not really about the shut the hell up part).
Anyway, that’s the state of things right now. I’m really pleased with how things are going.
I have nothing but the utmost respect for Dr. Sears, but I feel that he’s out for Dr. Ferber’s blood. Dr. Sears really made me think and worry that letting Cara fuss for a while was going to create this huge chasm between us.
That didn’t happen.
My daughter is more rested and in a better mood than she’s been in a while. Though I still subscribe to many of the Attachment Parenting ideas, nursing her to sleep and getting up EVERY TIME she wakes to nurse her back to sleep isn’t something that is good for either of us.
Kelly – In response to your comment, five to six months is when he suggests starting on one of his programs. That way, you can avoid some of the separation anxiety that is so common at six to eight months. BUT, he has case studies of kids from eleven month olds all the way up to adolescents. If you’re comfortable with his approach, then I would suggest reading his book and then trying it once you figure out your plan of attack. Maggie is one smart cookie and I know that she would totally understand what was going on and would be a little sleeping rock star.
I’m watching the MSNBC coverage of all of the candidates so don’t be surprised if I post a rant later on about one or two of them.