Tucker had a very an interesting proposal for me last night.
Tucker – Why don’t I get a part-time job?
Me – What? (because, like always, I really wasn’t listening to him)
Tucker – I think I’m going to get a part-time job. I’m not taking any classes this semester and I really need something to do. Plus, this would be a great way for us to sock away money for when we move back to Arkansas.
Me – You know, I really don’t want to talk about this. I feel like I don’t see you enough as it is, so if you want to get another job, just do it. Don’t ask me about doing it.
I was really struck by how offended I was by his suggestion. Initially, I jumped to the conclusion that he was wanting to get a job since I’m not working. I assumed that he felt the need to get a part-time job because I wasn’t “pulling my weight”.
But then I realized that I could get a job again; it’s not like I’m unemployable. When he gets home from the Base, I could leave Cara with him and then go work until 10 pm…and miss her bath-time and bedtime. Also, last time I checked, Tucker isn’t lactating. Tucker would be mighty hard pressed to feed Cara without milk producing boobs.
Now, don’t get me wrong here. If the husband is bored and feels like he “needs something to do”, I am actually supportive of him getting a second job. We’re making it just fine as things stand, but, who couldn’t use a little extra sumthin-sumthin? Trust me, I’m the last person you’ll meet to turn down extra money.
But on the other hand, I don’t want him gone.
When will he see Cara? More importantly, when will Cara get to see him?
Caroline absolutely glows when Tucker walks in the door after work. She climbs up my shoulder and giggles from the moment the dogs start whining because Tucker’s car just pulled in the driveway.
I know that it will just be the weekend, but what if it’s more? What if wherever he ends up working wants him to work during the week after his Navy gig? What then?
The extra money will be wonderful. We will be able to be totally free of debt before we have to move. But, I’m going to miss him. Especially on the weekends.
I just can’t decide if the extra money is really worth not having him here as much.