Comments on: A Game I’d Rather Not Play

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 23:31:47 +0000

OK. Is it bad that I laughed the whole way through your replies? :0

Ya humble me {and kind of embarrass me} with your praise and I can’t wait to “meet” you tonight.

By: nic @mybottlesup

nic @mybottlesup — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 23:26:31 +0000

your post alone is making me stay up past 11 pm EST (with a 15 month old) to discuss…. this is incredible writing.
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By: nic @mybottlesup

nic @mybottlesup — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 23:18:55 +0000

scratch that…. just realized the author was a woman. amy, i sincerely apologize…. however, in my defense, the strength in your tone is immense, and i associated that with a man, a father…. your strength overwhelmed me.

i truly apologize and admire you that much more as a woman, taking a stand against your family for YOUR FAMILY.
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By: nic @mybottlesup

nic @mybottlesup — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 23:06:08 +0000

shit. i just read this post from five-star friday cuz i’m supposed to be hosting tonight….

A) hosting for me means i have to stay awake til 11 at least which is not cool cuz i have a 15 month old son who is crawling on me at 7, if not sooner.

B) hosting means voicing how unfuckingincredible i find your post to be. you are one helluva strong father… a strong man.

i applaud you.
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By: Queen of the Click

Queen of the Click — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 21:31:33 +0000

First, I can’t figure out how I came to your page. I wish I could but I clicked on it, started reading it and then took some phone calls and came back. I think we are friends on twitter and I clicked on a link.

Anyway, I wanted to respond to let you know that I know how it feels to have a parent like that. It’s great that you were able to stand up for yourself and your family. I know how it feels to have to tell a parent to act, when you never thought you would have to do that. I always expected my parents to be right, to do the right thing and to know more than I do.

One day you will smile and realize that your children never needed to experience what you had to experience with your Dad. Hugs! Have a great birthday party and I hope it is drama-free.

By: Mary S from Twitter

Mary S from Twitter — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 20:19:09 +0000

You did a great job. You may have to do it again. Don’t get discouraged. This is how we heal from that kind of insanity.

By: Josh

Josh — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 17:22:37 +0000

Good for you! My parental issues are nowhere near as complex, but I had to have a similar moment, since my wife and mother can’t bear to be under the same roof together. Two years ago, my parents visited for Thanksgiving, and tension was so high I just called wife and mom into the room, told them that, ‘for 7 years, we’d put up with this cold war crap, and if I have to choose, I choose my wife, but I want both of them in my life… so they should just get it out into the open, put it all on the table and clear the air.’

And they did. It was awful. They dredged up 7 years of maligned feelings on that Thanksgiving Day amidst tears and shouting and door slamming and returning. And then we ate the most awkward meal of my life.

I’d like to say it made things instantly better, but the truth is that my parents left in the middle of the night for the 16-hour drive home. And we didn’t speak for a month.

If there’s a bright side to this debbie downer ditty, it’s that, two years later, things are looking really good. The infected sore was exposed, and cleaned, and stung like hell, and then took a long time to heal, but now that everyone’s put feelings on the table, there’s nothing to hide behind anymore. We’re actually building a pretty strong relationship between my wife and mom. And it wouldn’t have happened if the air hadn’t been cleared. So good on you — and congratulations for taking a bold step. : )
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