What Should I Do About Ollie and My Boobs?

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I just checked my email – after a day spent away from the computer and spent instead on the Little Big Planet demo – and I was met with an email asking if I’d like to go to this thing in October.

A thing that will require me to fly…something I abhor after spending 22 hours in the Atlanta airport. Add to that the fun, fun time of taking Ollie with me. By myself. On that plane. And you now have the perfect storm of freak outs [Me. Not him.].

I told Tucker about the email and Tucker offered to keep the kids so that I wouldn’t have to worry about it. It being flying with a toddler by myself and then the childcare and everything that goes with flying by yourself to a place where you know NO ONE.

Well, that’s great [and I appreciate him offering] but Ollie’s not weaned yet and I really had no plans on weaning him anytime soon. I don’t plan on breastfeeding him until he’s in college or anything, but weaning him to go on a business trip seems…selfish?

Tucker pointed out that in some people’s minds, as soon as the kid can eat solid food, you wean them. For other people, it’s the one year mark and then they get weaned.

I told him that I understood all of that but that I didn’t know if I was ready.

Cause let’s be honest, it’s about me for the most part. [Selfish #2]

I know that he’s still benefiting from breastfeeding. The WHO recommends breastfeeding until two. He enjoys breastfeeding and still actively nurses particularly in the mornings and right before bed.

So I’m left wondering if I should take him with me or do I spend a day away [potentially two] and then worry about him weaning while I’m gone? Not to mention my little mental movie of him screaming because Tucker doesn’t have lactating boobs. And then there’s the fact that the first night that I spent away from Cara was when I had Ollie so it almost feels like I’m shortchanging Ollie by leaving him.

And now that I’ve written all of this, I feel damn stupid because it’s just obvious that I should take him with me.



I’m at a bit of a loss now as to what I should do.

Suggestions? Ideas? Please don’t be nasty because any nasty things that you would write…well, I’ve probably already said them to myself and redundancy is just a waste of time.



  1. It’ll be a PITA to bring him with you, it’ll be a PITA to pump if you don’t bring him with you. If he’s anything like E, he will want to nurse upon your return.

    I wouldn’t wean “that early” (and yes I realize that is late for most(?) people, but IMO just over a year is too early to intentionally wean) and I know you don’t want to, either.

    I think either way you’ll continue nursing, but you have to go with your heart.

    I would bring Ollie or decide not to go IF IT WERE ME. But I’m not you. But I do luff you. Big time.

    I know you’ll make the best decision for you.

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  2. I think you should go if you want. I traveled work several times when the girls were nursing and they always went right back to nursing when I got home. It IS a PITA to pump though although if you do it a lot now then it’s not a big deal.

    I’m sill nursing my last (she’s 21 mos) and will until she’s at least 2 – my hubs and are actively arguing about it right now -something about when you can ‘ask’ for it you need to stop?? Never mind him – it’s not his bobelas that are being impacted.

    Or, actually, maybe they are since he seems so concerned to get them back.

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  3. I think he’ll continue nursing when you get back. If you were going to be gone for several days, it would be a different story, but a day or two isn’t going to affect your nursing relationship dramatically. If you’re not ready to wean, you shouldn’t. I highly recommend pumping while you’re away from him though, because you could get uncomfortably engorged, not to mention I don’t think big, wet circles on cute tops is “in” these days. 🙂

    If leaving him with Tucker and going it alone is going to ruin your time away, then you should take him. However, if you feel like you can handle the time apart from him and you might even (gasp!) enjoy a little break, go for it! Mamas deserve a break every now and then!
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  4. I am sure that you will make the right choice. I guess what I would do is make sure that the place is toddler friendly. Explain to them you may need to bring your son because he is still nursing. Because it would totally suck for you to go and get there only to realize that it isn’t going to work.

    But I agree with the others, I am sure that he will be very happy to see you and the boobies upon your return.
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