World Suicide Prevention Day: Choose To Live

Filed Under: Mental Health

You’re not the only one who is feeling like this and even though you don’t believe me, there are people who really do care if you die. There are people you will hurt. People you will decimate. People who want to support you. People who want to see you better.

The hardest thing you can do right now is ignore what your broken brain is telling you and chose to live.

Hell, it’s probably going to be the hardest thing for a while.

It gets easier.

You will get better.

Life will go on because you’re worth fighting for.

You think you’re weak but you’ve fought this long and you’ve fought so hard so you might as well keep on fighting.

I know what you’re going through. I’ve written about “the fight” before. If you doubt me, read it: The Fight You Must Fight.

There are people who want nothing more than to listen to what you have to say and to help you.

Go find your cell phone and call them.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline number – 1.800.273.TALK (8255)



  1. Jessica Cohen says:

    Such an important cause. Our family was affected by suicide two years ago.
    There is always a way out, no matter how bad things seem.

    • The first time I attempted suicide, I was in grade school and ate a bottle of aspirin. It was an impulse and I don’t remember what prompted the rash decision and I jammed my finger down my throat right after the aspirin was gone; I’ll never forget how bitter it tasted and I can’t take aspirin now since just the thought of the stuff makes me want to puke.

      Then in junior high, my ex-boyfriend at the end of a 12 gauge shotgun because he didn’t want to become a teenager–that was the reason he gave in his note.

      My cousin killed himself and my father has attempted suicide twice.

      I guess the way I want to end this is just to say you’re right there is a way out and it’s up to us as people who are around the folks in such low places to make sure the understand suicide really isn’t even on the table as an option.

  2. ConnieFoggles says:

    I think many people don’t understand that people who commit suicide do have a “broken brain”. We need to keep an eye out for the signs and be willing to help however we can.

  3. Such a worthy post – it breaks my heart when parents say “I didn’t see it coming” . . .I worry – you didn’t??! Then what if I don’t see it coming. . .maybe you chose to not see it. . .but maybe not.   it’s so frightening.

  4. LeeReyesFournier says:


  5. Yes, yes, and yes. Such an important post on a topic that does not get enough discussion.

  6. hoping the people who need to find this post will easily find it. So important.

  7. PsychoChick966 says:

    I wonder though really, if we can always say that someone who is suicidal has a “broken” brain. Sure, sometime, it’s true, their brain is indeed broken, either related to hypothyroidism, or some other factor that is due to illness. Sometimes though, don’t things just suck so badly that there really is not a way around them? ..Or at least that person, can maybe not think of how to get around them, but it’s not because their brain is broken? I can imagine all kinds of pretty horrendous things that I personally would not want to live through. Of course it’s important to try to help someone who is suicidal, but I’m not sure that saying their brain is broken could always really be seen as being terribly helpful…especially to the suicidal person themselves. Sure, sometimes, it might be seen as somewhat of a “relief” to them, that it’s not their “fault”, but to others, I would think that it discounts the feelings they have, to say something like that, that it’s not “normal” to feel that bad in their given situation, that others would ride above it. I think some situations are that bad, that almost anyone would feel suicidal (ie, the death of their child). What gets us through situations, beyond personal goals, beliefs drive, etc., is our coping mechanisms and support system. If part of that pie isn’t there, that personal resolve and inner strength to get through something, may not be there for you, or may not even be possible for you on your own. Again, even with all that stuff, some things really are that bad and your brain is not broken if you feel helpless. I’m not saying that someone SHOULD kill themselves mind you, please understand…I’m just saying, that given certain situations, anyone could feel that way, is all. As someone who struggles hard with depression, I just thought that it sounds a bit condescending to suggest otherwise. I know that is no one’s intention with the message…and my intent here is not anything but well-meaning. I just want to suggest that the current message suggests sympathy, instead of empathy.

    I think it might be better, to come to those who are suicidal with HOPE that things could get, or will get better, but not to definitely say it will. It’s important that people who are vulnerable can trust those who are giving them advice or help. I think to state most definitely that things will get better, instead of stating that there is hope for it to, and that there is hope to cope through such situations, says to the person, that this person in whom I am to trust, who doesn’t even know the situation that has made me feel this way, is stating something as fact that simply cannot be, given all the variables. I think someone would be more apt to put some faith in the idea of getting help, if they know they’ll be taken seriously, and that it can’t all be marshmallows and rainbows.

    Maybe because I’m coming from the perspective I am, I’m seeing it differently, but because I have been reading Amy’s blogs and know she appreciates honest discussion, I thought I’d just throw my thoughts out there and see if anyone else gets what I mean. I don’t always make the most sense, and often struggle to actually accurately express what’s in my own head. If nothing else though, I hope this comment just gets more of us talking about it.

    • I think you’re totally right: I screwed up with the tone of this.

      I spent way too long mulling over this post. I knew I should write it but I didn’t know what I wanted to say and I probably should have slept on it instead of feeling I had to post this on THE DAY since this subject is way too important to let time be a factor. Really hope that makes some sort of sense.

      Whether someone has a “broken brain” or has been driven to hopelessness due to their situation, the end result will be the same. That being said, HOPE should be the message. The way I look at it is there are people who have had it far worse than you–all-encompassing you–and they’ve chosen to live. That’s always given me hope. Perhaps it’s fucked up for me to compare my situation to someone’s more horrible situation but for some reason, that line of thinking got me through a lot.

      And I love this so hard since it’s 100% true;

      “… but because I have been reading Amy’s blogs and know she appreciates honest discussion…”

      Thanks a million for taking the time to write such an awesome comment.

    • I wanted to add this link in case you haven’t read it since I think it’s a worthy read. Maybe I bungled it as well, but I hope not.


  8. PsychoChick966 says:

    Amy, I had wanted to respond since the second I read your last two comments, and I struggled for words, typed, re-typed, back-spaced, and finally just deleted every damned thing I wrote. This is such a personal subject, and although I normally don’t say doctored-up versions of what I really want to say, in order to not offend, I was worried that maybe suicide was a topic I should be really careful about. In the end though, I’m thinkin’ it really is about each person’s own perspective, and that just can’t be wrong. It is what it is. It’s your experience. So, with that, I say eff it, I’ll just write. 😉

    I have been dying to say, that you bungled NOTHING, Amy. …nothing. You have opened up another desperately-needed place where people can talk about it…and let’s face it, not too many people want to talk about it. I’m hesitant myself even, and I’m quite the chatty chick. I think I’m feeling this way mostly, because I think I’m closer to the issue at the moment, than you are. I think, emphasis on the word think, that you have been able to move past what initially caused you to have suicidal feelings. I hope so. Even if you do occasionally have fleeting moments of them here or there, I hope you have a great support system to lean on, and help you get your head above water again.

    I don’t want to make this all about me. I just think that my perspective, when writing what I wrote, may have been different than what you initially wrote, only because of the difference in how far away from the idea, each of us are at this moment in time. Does that make sense? I’m not sure how much would be right to share here, so I’ll simply say that I’m struggling very hard with these feelings, on a daily basis. I guess I took exception to the idea that my brain is “broken”, lol, because of the circumstances causing me to feel the way I do. I can’t think that there would be too many people in my shoes who would feel differently.

    As a former nurse, I felt that I could safely say that it’s not always because of a broken brain, that we feel this way, and felt I could stand by that, objectively, even considering the way I’m currently feeling. There are “broken” brain factors contributing to the feeling for me, but they would have a much smaller role, if other things were not as they are. Anyway, a bit off-track…sorry for that. The important thing here Amy, is that we talk about it. You brought it to the forefront of your readers’ minds as they read here….and maybe that got them thinking about someone they know. That’s a damned good thing…a damned good thing, indeed, Amy.

    I had no idea the importance that HOPE plays in our lives, until some unfortunate things happened to me. Hope IS everything. It can mean so many things to so many people. As longs as it’s there, alive, and possible to realistically have it, it can mean salvation to almost everyone. I know, you tried to commit suicide yourself, so I know you get exactly what I’m talkin’ about here. I think suicide is one of those things, that unless you’ve felt that way, you cannot truly understand how a suicidal person is feeling. I know you get that too. I’m so not sure where to go with this Amy, lol, but, I’m glad you got some people reading and talking here. I’m also glad you found the light at the end of your tunnel. I have so many things in common with you, you have no idea. I don’t know all the little details of your life, but I know your personality, your way of expressing yourself, your sense of humor, and your honesty, and not only can I totally dig that, but I feel akin to you in that way. I hope that doesn’t sound all creeper-stalker and freak you out, lolol….I’m weird, I’ll give you that, and at times, probably a little creepy (if you ask my kids), lol…but I’m no stalker, and certainly, no creeper-stalker. I’m just a chick that thinks she gets you, and that gives me hope that someone someday, might get me too. I feel free to write from the heart here Amy, and I LOVE, that I think you’re the kind of person I consider myself to be….I love discussions and debates, passionate, heated, whatever, hearing all kinds of opinions, ideas, and viewpoints. I don’t care if someone disagrees with me, I’m interested in hearing what they have to say. I think you invite other open-minded souls to come write their opinions here about things you blog on, because they know you’ve written what you had to say, and have put your “proverbial” pen down (if that’s even the right way to write that), leaned forward, and rested your chin in your palms, just waiting to hear someone else’s reply from their unique perspective in the world.

    Again, I know I got a little off-track (I do that a lot), lol, but seriously Amy, this is a hard subject for so many to talk about, for so many different reasons. Thanks for being who you are, and writing something about it here. Ya done good son. 😉 🙂 – Jacqui

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